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Understanding Intellectualization: When Thinking Keeps Us in a Cage
Intellectualization—one of the most socially acceptable and often invisible ways we protect ourselves from emotional pain.

Cayla Townes
Jan 12


Boundaries vs. Limits: Terry Real's Framework for Protecting Yourself Without Controlling Others
One of the most misunderstood concepts in contemporary therapy culture is boundaries. Everyone talks about them, books are written about them, social media is full of boundary-setting advice. But much of what gets called "boundary-setting" is actually something else entirely—and the confusion causes real problems in relationships.

Cayla Townes
Jan 5


Finding Yourself in Someone Else's Story: A Therapist's Perspective on "What My Bones Know"
There are certain books that don't just tell a story—they hold up a mirror. Stephanie Foo's memoir, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, is one of those rare works that manages to be both deeply personal and universally resonant for anyone who has lived with Complex PTSD or attachment trauma. As a therapist, I often hear clients say, "I thought I was the only one who felt this way." This sense of isolation is one of the most painful aspects of CPTSD. F

Cayla Townes
Dec 17, 2025
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