Talk therapy can be incredibly powerful—but for many people, insight alone isn’t enough to create real, lasting change.

Codependency has become a buzzword in pop psychology—a shorthand for being “too much,” “too needy,” or “bad at boundaries.” But what if we’ve misunderstood codependency? What if, instead of seeing it as a flaw, we saw it as an adaptation? What if it’s not what’s wrong with you—but what happened to you?

Perfectionism often gets framed as a personality flaw or an overachiever’s quirk—something to tone down with better work-life balance or stricter time management. But for many, especially those with histories of attachment trauma, perfectionism isn’t just a habit. It’s a survival strategy.