You've been in therapy. You've done the work. You've developed healthier boundaries, better communication skills, and stronger emotional regulation. You've processed trauma, understood your patterns, and genuinely changed how you show up in your life. You feel good about your growth—proud, even. And then you arrive at the house where your family is for the holidays. Within hours, you're: Reverting to childhood defence mechanisms you thought you'd outgrown Feeling emotions wit

One of the most common struggles I see in therapy, particularly with clients who experienced attachment trauma, is the question: "How do I know what's good enough?" This seemingly simple question touches something profound—the difficulty of developing your own internal compass for evaluating your life, relationships, accomplishments, and self-worth when your early experiences didn't provide a reliable foundation for knowing what you deserve or what's reasonable to expect. If

The term "gaslighting" has become ubiquitous in recent years, appearing in conversations about everything from romantic relationships to workplace dynamics to political discourse. But as the term has gained popularity, its meaning has become diluted and distorted. People now use "gaslighting" to describe any disagreement, misunderstanding, or instance of someone being wrong—watering down a term that describes a specific and psychologically damaging pattern of behaviour.