One of the most common struggles I see in therapy, particularly with clients who experienced attachment trauma, is the question: "How do I know what's good enough?" This seemingly simple question touches something profound—the difficulty of developing your own internal compass for evaluating your life, relationships, accomplishments, and self-worth when your early experiences didn't provide a reliable foundation for knowing what you deserve or what's reasonable to expect. If

The term "gaslighting" has become ubiquitous in recent years, appearing in conversations about everything from romantic relationships to workplace dynamics to political discourse. But as the term has gained popularity, its meaning has become diluted and distorted. People now use "gaslighting" to describe any disagreement, misunderstanding, or instance of someone being wrong—watering down a term that describes a specific and psychologically damaging pattern of behaviour.

We live in a culture that sends deeply conflicting messages about emotions. On one hand, we're told to "follow our hearts" and "trust our feelings." On the other, we're praised for being "rational," "logical," and "in control" of our emotions—as if emotions are wild animals that need taming or inconvenient impulses to be managed and suppressed.